Comments on: Choose Your Battles http://www.raisingarrows.net/2009/09/choose-your-battles-2.html Bringing blunt-edged babes to finely-sharpened arrows Tue, 07 Sep 2010 19:38:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Angela http://www.raisingarrows.net/2009/09/choose-your-battles-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-5431 Angela Sat, 20 Mar 2010 22:12:57 +0000 http://blueyonderdesign.wordpress.com/2009/09/19/choose-your-battles-2#comment-5431 Awww, this must be the post you mentioned! As you know, I've been learning, too, about not being so quick to say, "No." Why should I say "No" to my kids playing in the sandbox just because I don't want to sweep up the sand they track into the house when they're done? Why should I say "No" to them doing a craft just because I don't want to deal with the mess? The last thing I want to do as a mom is to squash the hearts of my children. I wouldn't say that I'm "choosing my battles," but I would say, like you, that I'm "choosing not to care" when it just doesn't matter.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing!<br /><br />Angela Awww, this must be the post you mentioned! As you know, I’ve been learning, too, about not being so quick to say, “No.” Why should I say “No” to my kids playing in the sandbox just because I don’t want to sweep up the sand they track into the house when they’re done? Why should I say “No” to them doing a craft just because I don’t want to deal with the mess? The last thing I want to do as a mom is to squash the hearts of my children. I wouldn’t say that I’m “choosing my battles,” but I would say, like you, that I’m “choosing not to care” when it just doesn’t matter.

Thanks for sharing!

Angela

]]> By: Sarah Robinson http://www.raisingarrows.net/2009/09/choose-your-battles-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-5432 Sarah Robinson Sat, 20 Mar 2010 22:12:55 +0000 http://blueyonderdesign.wordpress.com/2009/09/19/choose-your-battles-2#comment-5432 lol....we don't do the cartoon bandaids...we have to do the 100 for $1.00 from the Dollar Tree. :) The great thing about it is that they come in all sorts of shapes and sizes. <br /><br />Oh and funny you should write about this. I just read something that Todd Wilson wrote in the TOS newsletter. He was talking about how he let his 3 year old go to the store with him dressed in her princess dress and plastic shoes. He made some important memories...you should read it! lol….we don’t do the cartoon bandaids…we have to do the 100 for $1.00 from the Dollar Tree. :) The great thing about it is that they come in all sorts of shapes and sizes.

Oh and funny you should write about this. I just read something that Todd Wilson wrote in the TOS newsletter. He was talking about how he let his 3 year old go to the store with him dressed in her princess dress and plastic shoes. He made some important memories…you should read it!

]]> By: true blessings http://www.raisingarrows.net/2009/09/choose-your-battles-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-5433 true blessings Sat, 20 Mar 2010 22:12:53 +0000 http://blueyonderdesign.wordpress.com/2009/09/19/choose-your-battles-2#comment-5433 great post! Now of course if he takes a snooze in the linen closet then if drools you would have to wash them again!LOL great post! Now of course if he takes a snooze in the linen closet then if drools you would have to wash them again!LOL

]]> By: ginnyd http://www.raisingarrows.net/2009/09/choose-your-battles-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-5434 ginnyd Sat, 20 Mar 2010 22:12:53 +0000 http://blueyonderdesign.wordpress.com/2009/09/19/choose-your-battles-2#comment-5434 I can say, that with having 9 children-3 being gone from home, that this is one of the biggest lessons I learned, through many errors of many NO's.....those yeses and I don't/do cares bring lots more memories--I PROMISE!!!!<br /><br />Those memories of him sleeping in the linen closet, or a picture of a little one covered in bandaids will long be remembered over the things not allowed....just because no was the first thing out of our mouth... I can say, that with having 9 children-3 being gone from home, that this is one of the biggest lessons I learned, through many errors of many NO’s…..those yeses and I don’t/do cares bring lots more memories–I PROMISE!!!!

Those memories of him sleeping in the linen closet, or a picture of a little one covered in bandaids will long be remembered over the things not allowed….just because no was the first thing out of our mouth…

]]> By: Lilyofthevalley - Tanya http://www.raisingarrows.net/2009/09/choose-your-battles-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-5435 Lilyofthevalley - Tanya Sat, 20 Mar 2010 22:12:51 +0000 http://blueyonderdesign.wordpress.com/2009/09/19/choose-your-battles-2#comment-5435 Thanks for sharing, my dh and I were just talking yesterday and about this "choosing your battles". Thanks for sharing, my dh and I were just talking yesterday and about this “choosing your battles”.

]]> By: Heart2Heart http://www.raisingarrows.net/2009/09/choose-your-battles-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-5436 Heart2Heart Sat, 20 Mar 2010 22:12:51 +0000 http://blueyonderdesign.wordpress.com/2009/09/19/choose-your-battles-2#comment-5436 What a great post! I have often shared this theory with my hubby and it helps when sorting out just which issues will warrant us to get involved and which just allow us to sit back and watch. This is priceless because we are growing children not flowers and we want them to blossom and bloom forth in self esteem of their own. <br /><br />Thank you for stopping by my blog today and hope you return for a more permanent stay and become part of my family. I'd love for you to stop by again. <br /><br />I have decided to follow your blog because you offer such great insights to become a great parent. <br /><br />Love and Hugs ~ Kat What a great post! I have often shared this theory with my hubby and it helps when sorting out just which issues will warrant us to get involved and which just allow us to sit back and watch. This is priceless because we are growing children not flowers and we want them to blossom and bloom forth in self esteem of their own.

Thank you for stopping by my blog today and hope you return for a more permanent stay and become part of my family. I’d love for you to stop by again.

I have decided to follow your blog because you offer such great insights to become a great parent.

Love and Hugs ~ Kat

]]> By: The Pauls' Family http://www.raisingarrows.net/2009/09/choose-your-battles-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-5437 The Pauls' Family Sat, 20 Mar 2010 22:12:51 +0000 http://blueyonderdesign.wordpress.com/2009/09/19/choose-your-battles-2#comment-5437 This is so true. I know I find myself way too many times, saying no just because it is inconvenient for me. These things are not morally wrong, but I say no just because I don't want to bother. And it is often these little things that make a big impression and great memories for these little ones. Thanks for the reminder. This is so true. I know I find myself way too many times, saying no just because it is inconvenient for me. These things are not morally wrong, but I say no just because I don’t want to bother. And it is often these little things that make a big impression and great memories for these little ones. Thanks for the reminder.

]]> By: Fruitful Harvest http://www.raisingarrows.net/2009/09/choose-your-battles-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-5438 Fruitful Harvest Sat, 20 Mar 2010 22:12:51 +0000 http://blueyonderdesign.wordpress.com/2009/09/19/choose-your-battles-2#comment-5438 Great post! I love the kid sized bunkbed! Too cute!<br /><br />The way I see it:<br /><br />Its not that I "chose not to care" as much as I choose to care....letting my kiddos explore their world!<br /><br />I tell people homeschooling it not something you do....its a way of life!<br /><br />What a terrific mom you are! Your home sounds like a fun place to be!<br /><br /> I too have friends that have such ridged rules about things...like no toys in the living room...she is always impaicent with the kiddos! Even the babies and mine when I'm over!<br />She helps me clean my house and keeps telling me the toys do not belong in the living room!<br /><br />Well as a homeschool way of life a childs work is there play!<br />Maybe I will write a post about that!<br /><br />Blessings,<br />Georgiann Great post! I love the kid sized bunkbed! Too cute!

The way I see it:

Its not that I “chose not to care” as much as I choose to care….letting my kiddos explore their world!

I tell people homeschooling it not something you do….its a way of life!

What a terrific mom you are! Your home sounds like a fun place to be!

I too have friends that have such ridged rules about things…like no toys in the living room…she is always impaicent with the kiddos! Even the babies and mine when I’m over!
She helps me clean my house and keeps telling me the toys do not belong in the living room!

Well as a homeschool way of life a childs work is there play!
Maybe I will write a post about that!

Blessings,
Georgiann

]]> By: MapleCottage http://www.raisingarrows.net/2009/09/choose-your-battles-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-5439 MapleCottage Sat, 20 Mar 2010 22:12:51 +0000 http://blueyonderdesign.wordpress.com/2009/09/19/choose-your-battles-2#comment-5439 I love that, Amy! I have been whispering that to myself lately.. Choose your battles :) I love that, Amy! I have been whispering that to myself lately.. Choose your battles :)

]]> By: *Mirage* http://www.raisingarrows.net/2009/09/choose-your-battles-2.html/comment-page-1#comment-5440 *Mirage* Sat, 20 Mar 2010 22:12:51 +0000 http://blueyonderdesign.wordpress.com/2009/09/19/choose-your-battles-2#comment-5440 A very good post! I admit that when I hear, "Choose your battles" I cringe and think, "What?! Well what bad behaviour are we supposed to let them them get away with then? I don't think so!" But you are right, it doesn't really have to mean that, does it? I do NOT let my daughter who is three climb into all the baby's things like the jumperoo and walker. I DO allow her to play with them with her dollies when the baby is not using them. Because it might break something if I let a 3 year old sit in an entertainment/exercise device meant for a 6 month old child, BUT it will not hurt anything at all if she borrows them for her dollies when baby brother is not using them. :) A very good post! I admit that when I hear, “Choose your battles” I cringe and think, “What?! Well what bad behaviour are we supposed to let them them get away with then? I don’t think so!” But you are right, it doesn’t really have to mean that, does it? I do NOT let my daughter who is three climb into all the baby’s things like the jumperoo and walker. I DO allow her to play with them with her dollies when the baby is not using them. Because it might break something if I let a 3 year old sit in an entertainment/exercise device meant for a 6 month old child, BUT it will not hurt anything at all if she borrows them for her dollies when baby brother is not using them. :)

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