How [do you] handle and what [do you] say when many people including family are against your decision? I would love to have a list that describes verses in the Bible and common ideas why most families homeschool.
This is a question that is on every new homeschool mom’s mind. What we are doing is not the norm, and when anyone does something out of the norm, they are met with disapproval.
First of all, EXPECT IT. There will be someone, somewhere who will have something to say about your decision to homeschool that will be less than understanding. Don’t think you will be exempt somehow.
Now, to prepare for the storm…
*Know why you homeschool. Remember the posts on goal setting?
You need to know what you are aiming at. It’s not necessarily going to be the same things I am aiming at because our quivers and family visions are quite unique; however, each family must know where they are heading so when the naysayers don’t understand you, you don’t find yourself shaken to the core.
*Remember Who’s in charge. You are not beholden to what others think of you and your homeschool. Yes, there are rules we must follow, but ultimately, you aren’t homeschooling to glorify the government and you aren’t homeschooling to glorify your in-laws (or whoever your naysayers might be). You homeschool to glorify the God Who is in charge of you and your household. At the end of the day, it is His opinion that matters.
And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.
All your children shall be taught by the Lord,
And great shall be the peace of your children.
My son, hear the instruction of your father,
and do not forsake the law of your mother.
The Bible is quite clear that parents are to be the primary teachers of their children. It is also quite clear as to WHAT they should be teaching. Don’t let academics and extracurricular activities cloud the fact that above all else, it is your child’s spiritual welfare that is of utmost importance. Naysayers (even the well-intentioned ones) will try to force your focus away from the Truth.
*Don’t be against something, be for something! This is something I learned many years ago. For me, homeschooling began as a knee-jerk reaction to all the bad of the educational system. I soon learned spending your homeschooling years in knee-jerk mode will eventually leave you bitter and angry (not to mention self-righteous). Shift your focus. Quit thinking of homeschooling as a way out and start seeing it as a way IN: INto your children’s hearts, INto deeper fellowship with God, INto more world impact for Christ! Avoid verbal arguments over why homeschooling is so much better than public schooling. Instead preach how homeschooling has given you the opportunity to spend time with the blessings God has given you, shaping them to be warriors for Him some day.
*Be blessed. I hate to say it, but it does matter what kind of face you put on as a homeschooling mom. Your game face had better look blessed rather than frazzled and grumpy. Actions and attitudes speak MUCH louder than any words you could offer to your naysayers. You may be able to talk the talk, but it’s your walk that matters most. Enjoy your children because even if you can’t convince your hecklers that homeschooling is the way to go, at least there will be no denying you love your children to pieces!
You can also find me at The Homeschool Classroom writing on finding science in the city:
For those of us living in the city, science (especially the nature studies) can seem impossible. After all, what could a child possibly find to study in a world of concrete and high rise apartments? After watching my children play and discover in our backyard this past week, I am realizing there is much science to be had here in the city. You might just have to work a bit harder at it…
To read more, head over to The Homeschool Classroom!