The Lord giveth, and the Lord taketh away…

Thank you so much for your prayers and support.
We have been blessed by all of you through this.

Baby’s heart was no longer beating.  Now we wait.  We are praying that no intervention will be needed.

I also feel I must address something that some of you will wonder about.

Why do I continue to write as if nothing has happened?

Because that is what I do.

I write, not because I do not care or I am not hurting, but because giving my mind something to do keeps me focused and thinking outside myself.  It is my way of moving forward…one step at a time.

I know I don’t have to explain that, but I also know it is best if I do.

And I am so very thankful to have listened to this CD from Vision Forum prior to going in to the Dr’s office yesterday…

My perspective on mothering the babies I have lost to miscarriage is changed forever.  I am so glad I “accidentally” ordered this CD.

I am blessed.

And I praise the Lord for this precious life.

Baby Roberts #10,
You are loved.

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160 thoughts on “The Lord giveth, and the Lord taketh away…

  1. Amy, there are no words. May God comfort and guide you. When you are up to it, I would love to know what the CD contained or how it helped you.. as one who has also suffered a miscarriage at 3 months myself.

    I just want to tell you that, by sharing your burden, you are ministering to many of us.

    God bless!

  2. Amy, I am so sorry for your loss. Though I know you are standing strong and firm on God’s promises, I pray that He will also meet you in your vulnerability, and draw you – his own baby – close while you walk through this raw and tender place.

    Please let me know how I can pray for you specifically…it would be an honor to lift you up, and pray for your needs. If you want to, email me anytime at MutheringHeights at gmail, and you know where to find me on Facebook.

    In the meantime, may he give you space to process your grief, and the peace that passes all understanding.

  3. So very, very sorry that you’re having to go through losing another baby! I couldn’t agree with you more that the cd is an amazing, remarkable comfort for the family grieving the loss of an unborn baby! Thank you for your testimony

  4. Oh Amy, I am so sorry you’re going through this. I so remember the pain of my miscarriage two years ago. I remember telling my husband: I know God is good and I know I’m going to get past this, but I still have to walk through it.
    God bless you with perfect peace as you walk through this. May God be glorified as He comforts you.

    • Thank you, Ginger. I’ve been grieving for 2 weeks, knowing things just weren’t right, but you still have to walk through it all.

  5. (((HUGS))) Praying you will not need any intervention. This is not a fun road to travel, but in the end, I believe we come out stronger. Call me if you want to chat. :)

  6. I am so sorry for your loss. Even doing your best to prepare your heart because you know something isn’t right doesn’t really take away the sting of hearing those words. May God bring you and your husband strength, peace, and comfort now.

  7. Oh Amy,

    You are no stranger to grief in this world. I could wish your burden were lighter, but of course it would do no good. I praise God for His mercy in giving you that CD before you went to the Dr.

    Thank you for sharing your grief with us. With me especially. I have really learned alot, and I know the Lord is using your life to bless others.

    Not that that will lessen the pain, but know that you are not alone before the throne of God Most High. I will be there with you today, asking His mercy and comfort in your time of need.

    Your Sister in Christ,
    Meg

  8. So sad for you Amy, but thankful that you have so many who pray for you and your family. We are also praying for you, for comfort and for no more medical intervention during this time.

  9. So very sorry, take comfort in our Lord. I lost a baby at 11 weeks….A very hard time for not just me but my husband and sons…Praying for you always…We went on to have another son, God does give and take away, Love, Tracy

  10. Aw Amy I love reading your blog and your practical approach to life. I am so sorry for your whole family. Praying for you all..

  11. I am so sorry Amy-there are no words! Just remember that God catches our tears in His bottle and He binds up the brokenhearted! You and your family remain in my prayers! ((hugs))

  12. I am so sorry for your loss! I just miscarried our third (would have been fourth)child-my second miscarriage. I understand what you are going through. The Lord bless you and comfort you!

  13. I’m so sorry, Amy. I have babies in heaven, too.

    Have you read Heaven is for Real, an account of a 4-year-old boy who went to heaven? It’s got a very moving episode where he meets his older sister, whom his mother miscarried before he was even born. It just made my heart glad to read it.

    I will pray that God will continue to throw His arms around you, and that the physical pain and follow-up will be very minimal.

    Sheila from To Love, Honor and Vacuum!

  14. {{HUGS}} to you Amy! I so appreciate your heart and the wisdom God has given you. I had 2 miscarriages before I had my precious Claire Elyse (born Feb 3). As much as those hurt, I’m so thankful that God chose to give us our amazing baby girl. She has been such a blessing to our family.

    • We also had 2 wonderful little girls following our other 2 miscarriages. I know the Lord is control and has something wonderful in all of this for us.

  15. Thanking you for your testimony of God’s grace during trials. I have a baby in heaven through miscarriage as well as a daughter who was stillborn due to anencephaly. I have found it amazing how God brings into our lives the people and resources that we need, always at just the right time. May His love and peace continue to surround you and your sweet family.

  16. I just wanted to let you know I am so sorry. I have lost 8 babies (4 living, 7 miscarriages since my last baby 3 years ago, 1 in between my 3rd and 4th). I am a christian, and people often look at me like I am heartless, but I know God is ultimately in control and I know he knows what is best. I have bad days when I think *will I ever have another one?*. My friend just had a baby and he is SOOO cute, but its hard. I pray so hard for another one. It hurts. But God knows. I just have to remember that. I am interested in that book now, maybe it would help me with my infertility/losses.

  17. I will pray you naturally miscarry. I have had to have 2 d and cs, but since then, naturally miscarried 6. I prayed so hard everytime because having the surgery is awful and I am not convinced its 100 percent without risks. Anyway, I will pray this happens on its own for you, its much easier on the body!

  18. Dear Heavenly father I ask that you send the presence of your sweet Holy Spirit to wrap his arms around Amy and her family. With their home with the peace that only you can bring during difficult times like these. I pray for each one of her children, that their faith in you will only increase as they walk through this with their Mother. May they and everyone around Amy see a glimpse of how much you love every baby you knit together in the womb, regardless of whether or not we get to hold them here on earth.I thank you for the promise that one day all of us Mamas with little ones who went before us, will stand before you one day as you hand us our sweet children.

  19. Praying for God’s arms to envelop you and your family during this time of grieving. I also pray that your body will do what it needs to do without intervention. I, too, had a miscarriage between my two babies, so I understand the very real and tangible loss of this precious little life. Hugs and prayers, Kim

  20. Know we are praying for you and your family. For those who don’t understand why you still write, I say some shop, some talk, some bake & some write, but we must all go one for the ones God did place in our arms. As a mother, the world can not stop for our lose, we must keep going as we morn.

  21. Oh Amy, I am so sorry. Your faithfulness and willingness to share have been a blessing to so many others. Know that I am praying for you and your family. May you rest in the Lord’s peace and promises as you grieve your little one and begin the journey of moving forward.

  22. I’m sorry. My heart breaks for you because I know the saddness of losing a very loved little one before you really get to know him. I pray that God’s peace that surpasses all understanding will surround you as you mourn the loss of this little one. Hugs from N.H.!

  23. Amy, I am so very sorry for your loss. :( I admire your strength & faith and I pray that God will continue to comfort you and wrap you in his loving embrace. *big hugs*

  24. I’m so sorry to hear this news. I completely understand the need to distract yourself with writing about other things. I agree with others who have requested you share how the CD helped (but only when you’re ready). I have not experienced a miscarriage but would love to prepare my heart (as much as one possibly can) in case I ever go through that or at least, know how to minister to those who are going through the loss of their unborn child.

  25. Amy, I’m so sorry to hear this news. Your precious little one is held in heavenly arms, which is a comfort. Our aching, human hearts and arms feel the loss so acutely, though. I have appreciated the book, Holding on to Hope by Nancy Guthrie, through my 2 baby losses of this year. I’ll be praying specifically for no more medical intervention.

  26. Amy, you are held up in my prayers. My heart sank when I saw the title in my email. I was hoping with all hope that a miscarriage wasn’t in your future. I’m amazed how blogging can bring compete strangers together in prayer. You are in my prayers as is your whole family. May God lift you up in His sovereign mercy and reveal to you His might plan.

    Hugs,
    Miranda

  27. I am so sorry! I will continue to pray for you. We lost our 3rd baby to miscarriage 3 weeks ago. It is hard but God continues to be my everpresent help and strength. ((Hugs))

  28. Amy,

    My heart just fell when I saw the title of your post. I am so, SO, very sorry. I wish there were a way for others to help carry the sorrow for you. I know we can’t. That is God’s place. My prayers are for God to wrap his comforting arms around you…and give you his peace. Prayers, love, and hugs sent your way from the state of PA.
    God bless you, and be with you.

  29. I love you my sister in our Lord Jesus Christ and our heavenly Father! I’ll be praying for you! I personally know words can’t really help right now so I send my prayers to our Father to help you and your husband heal.

  30. Amy, I am so sorry. I was JUST there in August and the grief is still fresh. I actually wrote a post with the exact same title as this when I was going through it. The Lord bless you through this process!

  31. Our first child was called home from my womb also. While I do rejoice in the blessings we’ve been given (we wouldn’t have our Buggly if we hadn’t lost our Avery), part of me still aches to hold the one we never got to whisper I love you to and snuggle. I cannot wait for that reunion day when we finally get to see the blessings we were asked to return to God. Praying for you as it is never easy (and don’t ever feel the need to apologize for writing. You aren’t doing anything wrong with continuing through this.)

  32. I’m so sorry for your loss. I have known so many women who have had miscarriages – both early in their pregnancies and further along – and they are painful at any stage. Your trust in the Lord is an inspiration; even when things are going well I find it hard to have such faith!

      • I was telling my husband about what happened with you and your husband, and we started talking about heaven, and how it says in revelations the number of people in white are innumerable..and he said just think of how many babies (miscarried and abortions, children) are going to be in heaven! Hell maybe a big place, but heaven is bigger! The Lord will take care of us, and our pain! Praying for you tonight!

  33. I was sad to read the title of your post. I am so very sorry for your loss. Praying for God’s peace that passes all understanding as your family grieves the loss of another child.

  34. Amy,

    I have suffered two losses personally and I just want you to know that I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. There are a lot ladies out here praying for you and I appreciate your willingness to share your situation publicly. I am sure that many women will benefit from it. I will pray that you will continue to have peace and that you will be comfortable as you wait for things to progess naturally.

    God bless you and your family. :-)

    Christine in Ohio

    • That was a big part of what the Vision Forum CD was about…we don’t just give lip service to being pro-life we ARE pro-life…even when that life will not be held in our arms. We still celebrate our baby.

  35. I love your choice of bible verses today. Several years ago I miscarried twice. During the first miscarriage we were in the ultrasound room when we learned the baby had died. My amazing husband starting saying this verse as soon as we saw the baby had no heartbeat. To this day when I think of that awful moment I still hear my husband saying “The Lord gives and takes away blessed be the name of the Lord!”.

    Your ability to continue to encourage women is inspiring to me. We’ll be praying that God comforts your family….

  36. So sorry Amy and family! I am personally grateful that you are so open and write about all things! ((HUGS))

    Love ya,
    The Vallejos

  37. Oh, Amy, I’m so sorry. We will be praying that you miscarry on your own. I had been praying so hard for you and for your baby. When I miscarried, it was a blessing to me to know that I will see my baby again in heaven, which of course you know already, but I pray that you will be comforted in every way you need by the Lord and those who love you.
    Praying for you, sweet friend,
    Wendy

  38. Amy,
    My heart grieves for your loss. I know your precious little one is in good hands. May the God of peace continue to shower you with His peace and love. Thank you for sharing your faith and helpin each of us find strength through these times also.

    In Him,
    Stephanie

  39. Amy, I was so sorry to hear the news. (((HUGS))) Whether we hold a child in our arms, or in our heart, they are a blessing from God and they change us forever. Praying for your strength and peace and that things will happen naturally without complication.

  40. I am so very sorry, Amy. Miscarriage is almost a dirty thing in our culture..so hidden away..so many who don’t think it really qualifies as grief.

    Yet, the Lord understands our pain, and He is the great Comforter. I pray He is wrapping you in comfort, and hope.

    Much love to you dear sister. God Bless your little one in Jesus’ arms.

    • That was one thing the Vision Forum CD really encouraged…speaking for the sanctity of life and the blessing of life no matter how tiny and unknown.

  41. So sorry about your lost, we just had a miscarriage a few months ago, and we just found out we are pregnant again (about 6 weeks now)It’s a rollercoaster of emotion, trusting and praying for this little life.

  42. So sorry to hear of the loss of your baby. :-( I’ll leave you with Isaiah 61:3 (NLT)

    3 To all who mourn in Israel,he will give a crown of beauty for ashes, a joyous blessing instead of mourning, festive praise instead of despair.

  43. Amy, I am so sorry. I just found your blog and saw this post…we had that no-heartbeat ultrasound this past Tuesday and so have been mourning the third of our lost babies this week. I am right there with you, and I do understand continuing to write. There is no right or wrong way to handle this grief, only the way we DO. That verse, and its extension in the song, “Blessed Be Your Name”, are the thought and prayer I am clinging to right now. Praying for you, sister in Christ.

  44. My heart just breaks whenever I read something like this :( I pray that God will be with you, comfort and encourage and strengthen you. This is just too sad for words, really, so I’ll leave it at that.