I started noticing it several years ago. It seemed every child’s cartoon, every television show, every movie featured men who were downright stupid and fathers who were worthless to their families. The families of the sitcoms and popular movies were driven, not by strong father figures, but by moms who could juggle everything, including the occasional dumb male.
Because we don’t watch a lot of television and have been pretty choosy about the movies we watch and own, I had all but forgotten my disdain for the typical big screen family. That is, until my children, who had been watching clips of PBS kids cartoons online, mentioned the stupidity of a certain father on one of the shows. As I sat down to watch this show with the kids to see what they were talking about, I noticed that he wasn’t just ignorant, he was a buffoon. His only purpose on the show was act like a child and refer his son to his all-knowing mother.
What was this teaching our children? And worse yet, what was this teaching our young boys about the role of husbands, fathers, and men in general in today’s society?
I know it is comical to watch the antics of Fred Flintstone and the like, but when our entire culture is saturated by this stereotype, is it no wonder that we begin to see the real flesh and blood men of our society, our community, and our own home as stupid and useless?
We cannot, as Christian families, perpetuate this stereotype because it is in direct contradiction to the Holy Scriptures. God’s order for the household is
God – Husband – Wife – Children
This isn’t about women’s rights or defeating the male chauvinistic pig, it is about an order that brings glory to the Lord and blessing to our lives. Men aren’t supposed to be wimpy doormats any more than women are. Men need to get up off the floor and women need to stop wiping their feet on their men.
We must do our best to offer our children a positive God-honoring view of the family. We need to teach them about fathers who were and are heroes. We need to be vigilant about what we allow our children to watch and be ever-discerning of the stealthy messages and attitudes brought into our homes through media and other methods. We also need to keep our own attitudes and actions in check.
Women, start treating your husband like a hero. Tell your children about this man you married and give them a healthy view of marriage and manhood.
Men, take your rightful place and take responsibility for the steering of this family. Be strong. Be courageous. Be the kind of man you want your sons to be and your daughters to marry.
Be on the alert, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.
1 Corinthians 16:13