Many moms feel as though they do everything by themselves and they easily burn out after a long day of barely getting by. This is especially prevalent when moms are caring for a household of very small children who make messes and need more of mama.
Before I go on, let me mention 2 kinds of frustrated mothers who have no place in your home:
The Poor-Me Mom and The Selfish Mom
Feeling sorry for yourself is never the answer and will only bring you to a place of resentment and bitterness. You must also beware the selfish attitude that feels like you deserve to have all the free time in the world and the fact that you have all these chores to do only serves to take away from all you really want to do.
So, keep yourself in check and read on…
There are 3 major ways for the modern homemaker to get help. Choosing at least one of these is essential to the homeschool mom because she has more on her plate than your typical stay at home mom.
- Help from within the family.
- Help from others outside the family.
- Help from inanimate objects.
So, let’s start with those nearest you…
Help from within the family
Sometimes all we need is a little boost from our family to get us through the day. This could be a phone call from the husband that checks in on you, a schedule that requires the children to pitch in with chores and meals, or Grandma coming over once a week to help you catch up.
Sadly, our society has encouraged the disconnection of the family unit, and we all to often become a family of individuals who think of no one but ourselves. It is imperative we get back to caring for each other within the home, so we can learn to care for others outside our home. It is not wrong to ask for help from your family as long as your motives are not martyrdom or laziness. Families are meant to function as a whole and there are definitely times when one member of that whole will be weaker and need more from the others. This is a life lesson!
Help from outside the family
I am going to say something I need you to hear loud and clear…
How can we “one-another” each other
if we never know what is going on in the lives of others?
I know, I know. None of us want to be the “needy” one in the church, but the very fact that you are afraid of being the needy one tells me you aren’t. Please, please, please…ask. Or at the very least, let people know what is going on in your family so they can stand with you in prayer.
Help from inanimate objects
Years ago, I had wiser, more seasoned homeschool mom tell me the gadgets and tools of our era were our modern “servants” and we should use them to their full capacity. If we need help, this is one very good way to get it. We should not feel guilty if we use our dryer or use our mixer or use internet tools to help us out. There is simply no need to be a one-woman show unless you are looking to be a one-woman basket case.
So, tell me…what do you do when you need help? I hope I’ve given you some ideas or at least the permission to get the help you need when you need it!
This post is part of the Fall 2012 iHN Hopscotch.