Every mother has moments in her life when she feels like there is no way she can keep up with everything she needs or wants to do.
I’m having one of those moments.
In fact, I don’t even want to keep up! I told you on Friday I am hibernating and that has a lot to do with it. I could care less what’s happening on the internet and I wish my emails would take care of themselves (as in disappear), I’ve become a lumbering bear and I often find myself just sitting…not reading, not cross-stitching, not writing or daydreaming…just sitting. And sometimes, I just lay down because sitting is too much work.
However, as I sit here typing this post (yes, I am sitting, but might need to lay down afterward), I realize there are a few things in life that must go on even when mama doesn’t feel like she can keep up with it all. Some plates get dropped, but some must continue to spin in some fashion.
Here are my thoughts on how to keep going without keeping up with your normal A-game...
*Meals – While I love perusing my Recipes board on Pinterest and adding all the yummy things I have pinned there to my menu list, there is no way this fits into the Keep Going pile. My menu for the next two weeks is simple, simple, simple. Lots of crock pot meals, lots of 3-5 ingredient meals, lots of the-kids-can-make-this meals. There is no reason to Keep Up with my normal menu routine when a simplified version will suffice.
*School – Every day, I decide what I think I can handle and let the rest go. How I feel physically changes on a daily basis, so I have to be willing to adapt. When you are in Keep Going mode, you have to accept limitations as part of your day. Take school in bite-sized pieces, only chewing as much as you can handle each day.
*Cleaning – Focus on the basics. Dusting can wait. Your house will not implode from a layer of dust. Use paper products to lighten your kitchen load and get the kids involved in keeping the house tidy. A little bit of tidy goes a long way when you can’t seem to Keep Up with it all.
*Outside Communication & Matters of Import – While I would love to stop answering the phone and delete every email in my inbox, there are still important things I have to attend to. When it comes to figuring out how to Keep Going with these important things breathing down your neck, the best solution I’ve found is a list. I don’t even prioritize the list. I just write it. I also give myself permission to NOT answer phone calls that aren’t truly important and DELETE emails that really don’t need my attention. I sort of drop off the face of the earth when it comes to anything EXTRA. The trick here is being HONEST with yourself about what is extra and what really does need your attention. Can’t figure it out for yourself? Ask your husband.
*Outside Activities – Sadly, we aren’t always issued early warning before we realize we can’t Keep Up. I knew I wouldn’t be able to handle much come January 1st, so I cut off all outside activities for the month of January and early February. But, if you aren’t allowed this kind of foresight, you have to find a way to get rid of the guilt and pare down the outside activities. Outside activities take up a lot of time and energy and really have no place in the Keep Going phase of life. Let them go until you can Keep Up.
So, there you have it…my guilt-free, sit-and-relax, baby-will-come-eventually B game. I’ll Keep Going, because I have no other choice, but you won’t find me Keeping Up. Turn around and wave at me every now and then. I’ll eventually get up and join you.