It’s important I know and address all the excuses I have for overeating and not exercising because excuses have always stood in my way. They are how I justify not being healthy. If I can work through the excuses, I can find answers and solutions and motivation to move past my excuses.
I figure we all have our excuses, so…
Some of my excuses are unique to me and some are struggles a lot of moms have. Time to lay it all on the line.
EXCUSE #1 – My child’s death
One excuse that is very unique to me centers around my daughter’s death. I have been unable to lose any significant amount of weight since her death 5 years ago. Why? Because somewhere in the back of my head I equate losing weight with deprivation and I want to want for nothing. I have been deprived of my child’s growing up years and that is quite enough. Because of this mentality, I have managed to convince myself that my lack of motivation is not a lack of self-control, but rather a matter of self-preservation.
However, my child dying is not a good reason not to take care of my health. In my quest not to be deprived, I became someone who let gluttony rule me. And gluttony will always leave you wanting.
EXCUSE #2 – I don’t have time.
This is one of those excuses that is quite easily justified. I have 7 children in my home. Plus, I homeschool. The nooks and crannies of my day are filled to the brim…or so it would seem. Yet, I find time to blog and check Facebook. I find time to sit and read sections of a book or magazine that interest me, and I find time to go grab a soda at the gas station down the road.
I tell myself those things don’t take very long, but that’s pretty lame. You can exercise in 10 minute snippets throughout the day. It is better than no exercise. And why not choose an exercise like T-Tapp that all the children can do with me and call it Physical Education? Additionally, you can premake healthy snacks or have easy foods on hand that don’t compromise your health or your time.
The truth of the matter is, I don’t exercise because it isn’t a priority. Internet time, my new book, and that gas station soda are more important to me. I have to stop using the excuse of no time and decide to make exercise and eating right a priority.
EXCUSE #3 – Too many littles
I live in a land of perpetual toddlers and newborns. Isn’t exercise impossible when you have lots of littles? You can’t head to the gym on a whim. You live your life in between their naps and nursing sessions. I’ll just wait until they are older or until I hit menopause and the babies stop coming. Until then, I’ll just be a slobby unhealthy mess.
This was probably my #1 excuse for not exercising. That is, until my friend Angie, another mom of many, started sharing her determination to be a fit mom and my friend Jamie, also a mom of many, dropped over 100 pounds and started running. Their excitement was contagious and I realized if they could do it with a lot of littles, I could too. (You can follow Angie’s journey at her blog One Motivated Mama.)
Once again, being fit had to become a priority in my life. I have to be fit BECAUSE I have lots of littles, not in spite of all my littles. They are not an excuse for being unhealthy, and how dare I lay the blame on them.
EXCUSE #4 – My husband isn’t on board.
For years I blamed my husband, who was a foot taller than me and 100 pounds heavier than me, for my weight gain. He was playing college football or running miles upon miles in the military, but I, in my sedentary state, was matching his food consumption calorie for calorie. My lack of self control was his fault. Hmmm….
Now, I must admit, when my husband, who isn’t as physcially active as he once was, is more cognizant of his food choices, I follow suit, but I can’t use him as a crutch. (By the way, Ty has lost 24 pounds simply by tracking his food and exercise in My Fitness Pal!)
Sometimes this excuse has been more of a pity party where I tell myself that Ty gets to exercise any time he wants, and he doesn’t have a whole crew of kiddos to feed and homeschool. He has that precious time I don’t seem to have. Oh wait…I debunked that myth already. And frankly, he has a whole office of staff to supervise and a workload that could stress anyone. He has as much time as I do. The difference is he made being fit a priority, and we’ve already established that I did not.
EXCUSE #5 – I don’t have the money.
No money for a gym membership or healthy food isn’t an excuse I can allow either. I can do free YouTube workouts (I’ve been adding some to my Weight Loss and Fitness Pinterest Board as I find ones I want to try) and I can rework the grocery budget so I can add in more healthy foods. Or I can simply eat less of what I’m already making. I may have to close my ears to all the latest, greatest costly exercise and weight loss programs, or save up for the ones I really feel could benefit me, but in this country and era, money should never be an excuse for not being healthy. There are ways to be healthy on a budget. I just have to make them a…yes, you guessed it…priority!
EXCUSE #6 – It doesn’t really matter.
A few years ago, I gave up. I told myself I didn’t care anymore. In fact, I even managed to convince myself that God wanted me to overindulge in food. Last year, before my miscarriages, I was doing a free online program called Setting Captives Free that opened my eyes and heart to what Scripture really says about being healthy.
I am a glutton. I must admit that. I am not the temple I should be not because of how much I weigh or how little I exercise, but because my heart is not where it should be.
You see, I’ve been talking about priorities all throughout this post, but the real truth of the matter is my #1 priority has to be Christ. I have to be filling up on Him and running this race for Him. My body isn’t a temple for me to show off how thin I am or how strong I am or how awesome of a mom of many I can be. Being fit can’t be about me. It has to be about something bigger than me because someday the exterior temple will crumble and what I’ll be left with is what was behind it all along.
I have to do this because I am aiming for holiness and self-control, a life that honors the Lord as above all. A life that declares my #1 Priority is my Savior, my Christ.