What makes a home beautiful?
I’ve been pondering this question for a while. It’s going to take me a few posts to really pull together my thoughts, but I would love to have your input as I write.
Homes are a reflection of the people in them, but sometimes the reflection ends up a bit distorted due to busy lives and lack of time As I’ve been learning to bloom where I am, I decided to work harder at making our home a better reflection of us.
If you’ve been reading Raising Arrows for long, you know we move a lot. Some houses I’ve managed to make a home in, some have taken a more concerted effort some I never go around to at all. Often, it depended upon the circumstances surrounding our arrival. This last home is a case in point -
We had moved suddenly due to the landlord of the previous house needing to come back home. When we moved here, I was miscarrying for the second time in a matter of months. Shortly following the miscarriage, I travelled for blogging business, and then found out I was pregnant with Creed. Morning sickness kicked in and then the holidays, and then a new baby, and next thing I knew, I had lived here a year and hadn’t put up any pictures on the walls or really thoughtfully decorated a single room.
As I was pondering what it meant to bloom, I began considering the beauty of a blooming flower.
God created man to be beauty-seekers. We delight in beautiful things, and the Lord has surrounded us with many delightful treasures that reflect His awesomeness!
If you bring that beauty into your home, what would it look like?
The first thing I thought of were the sounds of a beautiful home.
The sounds of a home are so important. However, because we rarely consciously consider the sounds of our home, we often don’t strive for them to be beautiful.
One of the most important things you can do as a mother is to speak gently.
Some mothers have a naturally soft and soothing voice, but that’s not what I’m talking about here. Your voice can be trained to speak softer, but the more important training should be focused on the attitude and the words.
I used to be an angry mom. My words were harsh and biting because I felt all tangled up inside. I had to get my insides untangled before I could truly speak gently to my children and husband.
The past few months, I was getting tangled up again and it was coming out in my harsh tone and quick and sassy quips. What you feel will come out of your mouth. If you are struggling to speak gently, it’s time to examine your heart. What is really going on?
Lately, my issue was with my husband. I felt resentful for not being able to move back home. I wanted a life I used to have, one I knew no longer existed. I was getting more and more critical and my tone with him was less than charitable. My attitude was beginning to rub off on the children, and I saw them disrespect their father with their words all because I wasn’t addressing what I was feeling.
I decided I needed to step away from the emotions and rationally and gently address my thoughts and feelings with my husband. But, I also told him I was determined to let go of those feelings and bloom in the here and now, wherever that may be.
This is my personal story, but whatever is holding you back from speaking gently in your home needs to be dealt with. You must ask the Lord to show you where your attitude is coming from and what you need to do to move beyond it. Perhaps it is a broken relationship with one of your children or maybe a harboring of bitterness from the past. You have to stop wallowing in the feelings and start living a surrendered and Holy Spirit-filled life.
Another sound that makes for a beautiful home is laughter. Some families find laughing to be an easy thing. Others have to work at it. One thing I know is that a joy-filled life will naturally lead to more laughter in your home. Joy comes from a living a fully surrendered life (like I mentioned earlier!).
The sounds in your home are directly related to the heart conditions of the people within the home. If there is strife and fighting, you can guarantee there is much more lurking beneath the surgace. Those things can’t simply be brushed under the rug and forgotten. They set the tone for the entire household.
I encourage you to listen for the sounds of beauty in your home. Listen to your own voice. Listen to the voices of others. Speak gently, sing and laugh, be beautiful!
Looking for more beautiful sounds for your home? Here’s my most recent purchase: