Stressed, Overwhelmed, & Anxious – But What Do We Do About It?

The other night I was contemplating the WHY behind so many people feeling anxious and overwhelmed when we’ve been doing the same things other people have been doing for hundreds of years.  In fact, we have more help than ever, and yet, we are more stressed out than ever.

This article seemed to offer the most reasonable explanations for WHY, but it didn’t offer any remedies.  For a moment, I wondered if there were any remedies, or are we Americans doomed to a life of worry?

I just can’t accept that.

Americans are some of the most stress, anxious and overwhelmed people on the planet.  Homemakers and homeschoolers are no exception.  But, what can we do about it?  |

The article cited above gave 3 main reasons for anxiety and stress in America.

1.  Loss of a real life community.

2.  Information overload. (Remember, when I wrote about Homeschool Information Overload?)

3.  The inability to sit with our feelings without medicating them in some way.

I agree with these findings.

My happiest memories of my adulthood involve being a part of a church that was like family, having wonderful neighbors who spent time together, and having family nearby.

I also know I am bombarded by more information than I can possibly sift through every single day.  I’ve felt my anxiety level rise as I’ve lifted the lid on my laptop, knowing my inbox would be overflowing, my Facebook feed teeming, and voices from every direction sharing ideas, suggestions, and how-to’s that are guaranteed to make my life better.  Except they don’t.

I’m also familiar with the desire to run from my feelings…or eat them.  Food is my medication of choice.  The numbing effects of chocolate and sugar rescue me from feeling bad.  I’ve also used the computer or other media to drown out the sadness or fear or loneliness.  I don’t want to feel bad.  Who really does?

Can you relate? Are you affected by a lack of community? Do you feel like there is too much information bombarding you every day? Are you afraid of uncomfortable feelings and turn to “medication” to avoid feeling them?

But, let’s not stop there…

Like I said, I’m not willing to throw my hands up and say, “Oh well, I guess this is just the way it is.”  I KNOW a slower, simpler, less stressful life is possible.  And for those suffering from anxiety, adrenal fatigue, and any other condition exacerbated by stress, it is IMPERATIVE we learn how to fix this.

So, first issue –

What can we do to foster a REAL LIFE sense of community?


1.  Go to church.  Actually, don’t just go, BE A PART of things.  We may not always be able to be near family, but the Church offers that family atmosphere in a God-ordained community. I know personally how tough it is to keep going when you aren’t rooted in a church.

2.  Work on friendships.  Friendships are difficult for a mom of many who homeschools, but they are possible.  They often come from relationships built at church or homeschool groups.  You will also have to make an effort to build friendships.  But, you don’t have to make it hard on yourself.  Invite another family over.  Have a cup of tea together.  Loan a book.  Learn more about the people around you.  And PRAY for godly friendships!

3.  Go outside and be visible.  This might strange on the surface, but think about something for a moment…what happened to front porches?  Do you know very few homes we have lived in over the years have had front porches?  We currently live in a house that does, and we have met more people simply by sitting on the front porch!

Next issue –

How do we sift, filter, and slow information overload?

This one is tough for me.  I like information.  I like to dig for answers, try new things, make notes and bookmark tidbits.  But it is killing me.  I don’t manage it well because it truly is unmanageable.  We are living in the information age.  Information bombards us at the speed of a keystroke.  It’s in our inboxes, on our social media, it’s pinging our phones, and popping up in the corners of our lives every second of the day.  We are drowning in it.  And getting out from under it feels impossible because so much of our lives involve “devices.”

I’m not even going to pretend to know all the answers here, but I can tell you what I am doing to slow the flow of information.

1.  Spend less time on the computer.  The less time I am on a computer or phone or tablet, the better I feel.  The more I live life, the better I feel.  I may not be writing as much here on Raising Arrows, but rest assured, when I do write, it’s because I actually have something to say that has been sparked by my REAL life.

2.  Shut off the notifications.  Yes, I may miss something.  It won’t be the end of the world.  I don’t need all those emails, notifications, pings, and promises clogging up my real life.  If God wants me to see that information, He will put it in my path!

3.  Put the internet in its “box.”  My life is made up of boxes of time that act as boundaries and regulations.  The computer needs to be in its box.  It can’t be allowed to invade every other box of my life.  This means when I pull up information for a homeschool lesson, I either need to print it off or I need to make a concerted effort to avoid going down a bunny trail, checking my email, or jumping on social media for a second.  And when it is time to check email or social media, I do that, and then I’m done.  This may mean shutting off the computer, putting it in a room that isn’t easily accessible, or choosing not to have my phone near me at all times.  Yes, I do miss calls and texts and emails.  Even if no one else understands, I know that my life cannot revolve around a digital device.

And lastly –

How do we cope with feeling sad, angry, or lonely without simply putting a bandage over it and pretending it isn’t there?

There’s really only one answer to this…

Cry out to Jesus.

There is pain in this life.  Constantly running away and avoiding it makes us reliant on ourselves (or a magic pill – that doesn’t REALLY help).  We have to allow ourselves to feel.  We have to allow ourselves to just be.  We have to allow the Lord to work in our lives because we know fully well we can do nothing else.

Something that article, and any other from a secular source, will never tell you is that you NEED to be SAVED from all this worry, stress, and strife.  But, it isn’t a WHAT that is going to save you.  It’s WHO.

Faith is tough, folks.  It’s not the easy road. There are a lot of voices out there telling us we should think for ourselves, we should “get help”, we should do whatever it takes to get away, all the while avoiding the TRUTH.  The answer isn’t a better ME.  The answer is a perfect Savior who doesn’t need me to meet a certain standard, feel a certain way, or have the perfect plan.

Sometimes we try too hard.



This slow-down is an ongoing process.  It takes time to build, repair, and learn the art of abiding.  Thank you, Jesus, for saving me from myself!

Now, it’s your turn…

Are you struggling?  Have you had victories?  Share them here!  Raising Arrows isn’t a REAL LIFE community, but the readers here REALLY DO CARE!

Healing the Rift Between Christian Women

I wish I could say I’ve never been unkind to another sister in Christ. I wish I could say I have always been above reproach, always acted in a selfless manner, always sought to restore rather than destroy.

I also wish I could say I’ve never been on the other side. Never hurt by things said to me, or things not said, but implied or said behind my back.  I wish I could say I’ve never been misunderstood, criticized, or left out.

There is a reason the Bible admonishes women not be given to slander (1 Tim 3:11) or run from house to house gossiping and telling more than they ought. (1 Tim 5:13)

Lately, the Lord has been speaking to my heart about these things…about what it means to be a Christian, and particularly a Christian woman. I’ve seen myself flail between having a critical spirit and being completely self-conscious and unsure of myself. And when I look around at my Christian sisters, I see others just like me.

I am a servant of God – I shouldn’t look down my nose at everyone else. I am a daughter of the King – I shouldn’t feel like a good-for-nothing nobody. I am a member of the Body of Christ – but, where is the UNITY?

Healing the Rift Among Christian Women |

We women quietly fight over everything from birthing choices, to clothing choices, to worship choices, to Bible version choices…and the list goes on and on.  It is in our nature to stir up strife.  We are passionate, emotional people.  We relate to others via feelings, and we ache for commonality.

But, we weren’t called to commonality.

We were called to unity in Christ.  One head, one body, yet…

…the body does not consist of one member but of many.
1 Corinthians 12:14

It is imperative we stop focusing on our differences, and start focusing on Christ!

The women I know whom I feel personify the living, breathing Word of God have one thing in common – a gentle and quiet spirit (1 Peter 3:4).  They aren’t doormats or pushovers, but they don’t need to be.  They are genuine encouragers.  They love you right where you are.  And because of that sweet spirit welling up within them, you WANT to be near them, you WANT to ask them questions, you WANT to learn more from them.

So, how do we heal the rift between Christian women?  We heal the critical spirit in our own lives.

We criticize ourselves.  We criticize others.  And when we do that, we essentially stomp all over the sacrifice Jesus made for us.  We say, “Yes, Lord, I know you made me a new creature, but you missed a spot,” or, “Yes, Lord, I know you died for my sister, but she just doesn’t get it.”

None of us are going to be perfect this side of Heaven.  God isn’t interested in perfection.  He’s interested in teachable, usable, willing vessels.  A critical spirit isn’t any of those things.

The Lord has been dealing with me on this for years now.  He keeps peeling back more and more layers, bringing me to that gentleness and quietness I so desire.  Recently, He brought Angie Tolpin into my life via her ecourse Redeeming the Division – The Quiet Fight Among Women (affiliate link).  It spoke to my heart right where I am…desperately wanting to heal the rift and move forward in a spirit of unity.

Redeeming the Division - The Quiet Fight Between Women online ecourse

If you are interested in taking this course on your own or with a friend, click HERE.

If you would like to lead a group study of this course, click the graphic below…

Group Leader Kit of Redeeming the Division - The Quiet Fight Between Women

I have been prayerfully working through this course, asking the Lord to root out my critical spirit and lead me toward gentleness and quietness, encouragement and grace, love and mercy.  It doesn’t mean I am weak in my convictions or I am some how condoning the sins of others.  Rather, it means, I am focused on Christ, fully trusting of the work of the Holy Spirit in my life and the lives of others.

Lord Jesus, thank you…thank you for loving me and my sisters right where we are.  May we ever be guided by your Holy Spirit.  Amen and Amen.

Fruit of the Spirit for Marriage Printable {FREE}

Last week, I mentioned exhibiting the Fruit of the Spirit in your marriage as an important way to be a wife when the kids are taking a lot of your energy.

In a few days, Ty and I will be celebrating our 19th wedding anniversary, so I thought now would be a great time to put together a free Fruit of the Spirit for Marriage printable so you could have something to print off and hang on your wall, put with your At-A-Glance Schedule, or laminate and stick in your Bible.  There are 2 sizes – feel free to print off one or both of them!

May you and your marriage be blessed by it!

Download the Fruit of the Spirit (for married couples) LARGE printable here!

Download the Fruit of the Spirit (for married couples) SMALL printable here!

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The Eclectic Homeschool – Bible Resources

Eclectic Homeschooling - Bible Resources | RaisingArrows.netLet’s start at the top breaking down this eclectic homeschooling thing!

Bible should be the first “subject” we teach.  Now, you know I’m not a big fan of Bible being compartmentalized (thus the reason the word subject is in quotation marks), and the free-spirited homeschool side of me wants homeschooling to be a lifestyle, not a method, so please understand, the suggestions here are not something you do so you can checkmark a box.  I’m going to walk you through Bible study ideas and resources that will be outside the box – which fits perfectly with the eclectic homeschooling personality!

What Bible looks like in an eclectic homeschool |

Because I do not recommend doing any FORMAL Bible study with children younger than junior high age, I am going to start by giving you resources and suggestions for infusing Bible into your entire day with younger children.  Then, we’ll move on to the older children.

Bible Resources & Suggestions for Non-Readers

Before your children can read, they are totally dependent on you to feed them their Scripture.  This is such a crucial time, and a FUN time too!  They are little sponges and getting God’s Truth in them isn’t a difficult task.

For years now, I’ve read to my non-readers and early readers (more on them in a bit) from a Story Bible first thing in the morning following Morning Chores and breakfast.  If I was more awake in the mornings, I would definitely do this at the breakfast table, but between late nights with the older kids and middle-of-the-night feedings with the newborn, I don’t have the wherewithal to do that right now.  So, we clear the table from breakfast and meet in the parlor.  (The older kids head off to do their own Bible study time, or sit in on the reading as well – you can always learn something new!)

Here is a list of the Story Bibles we have used – I like to keep this time MEATY.  There are many more out there, but I’m only going to list the ones we’ve personally used:

The Child’s Story Bible

Mighty Acts of God

Hurlbut’s Story of the Bible (1932 edition)

Over the years, I have also added in Character Studies during this same time period. I like to choose something a wide range of ages can understand (make sure you are always dialoguing during this time too!). This is where I would plug in any resources I have found online (think Pinterest) or in bundle sales.


Here are a few we have used in the past:

Proverbs People – Volume 1 by the Boyers

Proverbs Study Guide – Volume 1

(note: this was pretty heavy at times, and in classic Kevin Swanson style – a little dismal – but I would still recommend it if you are willing to stay intellectually engaged and help your children digest it.)

Fruit of the Spirit Children’s Devotional
fruit of the spirit edevotional

I have even used an old KONOS manual I was gifted many years ago!

Honestly, this is a great place to exercise your eclectic-ness!  You have the freedom to try lots of different resources and find ones that your family LOVES!  This is also a good place to fit in a read-aloud like a YWAM missionary heroes book.

Now, on to the rest of our day…

I’ve told you before that we always start with the Rod & Staff ABC series for our preschoolers when they decide they want to do school.  This isn’t because this is “Christian” curriculum, but because it is one more way to create dialogue with our children about God’s greatness while teaching them skills.  However, the best way we’ve found to infuse the love and greatness of our Creator is through allowing our children to run and play out of doors.  I remember reading once that the Amish feel it is important for their children to spend a lot of time out of doors because it helps them to know and love God.  I wholeheartedly agree!

Read this post to learn more about letting your children learn through curiosity.

In my mind, the curriculum is not the real issue.  You can use a curriculum for your non-readers or not, but whatever you do – BE INTENTIONAL.

I want to add a quick note here – I do not advocate contrived teaching (for lack of a better phrase).  LIVE YOUR FAITH OUT LOUD, but don’t feel like every word that comes from your mouth to your little one’s ears needs to be saying something directly about Jesus.  YOUR LIFE should say something about Jesus.

We dialogue all day long, we interact all day long, we feast and have fun!  We want our life to point to Christ.  No, we don’t always get it right, but that isn’t the point!  The real point is that we are striving by God’s grace to honor Him!

At the end of the day, we try to have a Family Worship time.  This is more of a training time than anything for our little ones.  We read the Bible and sing, and I work to keep them sitting and respectful of God’s Word and the person reading.

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After that, I like to put the little ones down by reading something short to them and praying with them and then turning on some Scripture Music.  This is usually a light-hearted and slow-paced time – we still end up with a lot of discussions, but I prefer this time to be short and sweet (what can I say, I’m tired too!).

We are currently reading the Snuggle Time series from Tyndale.  (Here’s my review of this series.)  There are 3 books in the series.  They are short, but thoughtful (and I rarely get by with reading just one to the kids!).

Snuggle Time series

After that, we help them say prayers by guiding them with some ideas of things to pray for and about.  If we’ve had a late night, we will often say a group prayer rather than an individual prayer.  It’s good for them to hear mom and dad pray for them…even if you simply say, “Please help Junior learn to obey.” 😉

Then, I turn on some music, and pray they stay in bed.  (just being real here)  One of my favorites is Scripture Lullabies.  (You can read my full review here.)

Scripture Lullabies volume I & II {review & giveaway from}

Bible Resources and Suggestions for Early Readers

As soon as our children can read reasonably well, they receive a Bible of their own!  Be sure it is in the SAME TRANSLATION your family uses for devotions or your pastor uses at church.  This allows them to follow along.

We encourage them to read a few passages every day as they are able.  They also listen in with the younger children during the morning story Bible and character studies. (see above)  My 10 year old is also reading through the YWAM missionary books on her own.  This has sparked a lot of great discussions.

YWAM Missionary Books - Bible Resources for the Eclectic Homeschool | just finished this one.)

Another thing I do a lot of is leave Christian resources laying around the house.  If I find something I want my children to read, I just leave it somewhere.  They devour it!

I also try to bring things out at meal times like the latest Voice of the Martyrs magazine or the letter we received from Samaritan’s Purse.  My plan is print off some maps from this free website and put them on the wall in the dining room so the kids can readily see where some of the things we read about are taking place.

We are also going to start using a resource I’ve had my eye on for a while and managed to get in the Build Your Bundle sale – The PictureSmart Bible!

Draw your way through the Bible
I am really excited about this!  These are templates your children colors and fills in to enhance their understanding of Scripture.  And yes, I’m going to do them along with them!

Bible Resources and Suggestions for Jr. High & High School

When your children get to this age, it’s time to assess their individual needs in the area of Bible.  This is the time to deepen their walk, give them answers they need, prepare them for the world.

Do not expect every child to be a believer at this point in their lives.  That’s not YOUR job, and you haven’t failed if they haven’t made a profession of faith by the time they are 12.  If you have raised thinking young adults, they will need something much meatier to chew on at this point, and THAT is YOUR job.

This is when we introduce Worldview curriculum.  This is when we start requiring they read books like Dug Down Deep, Assumptions, and How Should We Then Live.  (Soon, I hope to post a list of the books we require for graduation – these being among those.)

We send them to TeenPact, Worldview Academy, and we stay available for the hard questions.  This is the time to put the Bible Gateway app on their phone, tablet, or iPod.  Help them set up a Bible reading plan.  Teach them how to take sermon notes.  Keep that running dialogue, and DO NOT FREAK OUT when they ask hard questions.  It is NOT a sign of defiance – it’s a sign of a thoughtful mind.

This is also when YOUR prayer life is going to kick into overdrive!  My teens have rooted out all kinds of inconsistencies in my life.  They have called us on things we believe, but haven’t thoroughly thought through.  They have asked questions that we needed to look up and study for ourselves.  I am challenged and encouraged by them every single day!

I know this is a lengthy, meaty post.  I know there is so much more I could say, but let me end this by saying that the eclectic homeschool is such a rich environment for studying the Word of God!  You are not chained down to one thing.  You don’t have to follow a prescribed method.  But even if you aren’t an eclectic homeschooler, please don’t compartmentalize your faith and Bible time in your homeschool!  Do whatever it takes to make it your life and the central focus of your children’s education!

The Mission Field in Your Home

One thing I often hear from stay at home moms is that they feel they aren’t reaching out with the Gospel of Christ.  They are so busy running a household, they have time for little else.  (Remember my post on What You Need to Know About Being a Mom Many Littles?)  These woman want to be spreading God’s Word, but they can’t find the time, the energy, or the babysitter.  I’ve even known some women who gave up homemaking and homeschooling in order to make a greater impact on their community for Christ.

What these mamas are missing is the mission field right in their very homes!

The Mission Field In Your Home - "Living and Ordinary Life in the Name of an Extraordinary Savior" |

Before you hang up on me because I’m being trite, please listen to these words written to me in an email by a Saladmaster Cookware representative who visited our home last week:

“Your family is truly amazing and I felt I was on very sacred ground being in your home.  I am in homes all the time and see interaction in all sorts of wonderful families but have to say, yours is a real stand-out!  I consider it a privilege to have been among you.”

That blew me away.  Sure we get comments as we are walking down the aisles of the grocery store or in restaurants, but to have someone who had been around us for more than 10 minutes give such an amazing testimony to the Light of Christ IN OUR HOME blessed my busy homemaking/homeschooling mama heart!

My children as a mission field.

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My mission field has always been my home.  I care for children all day long, doing my very imperfect best to instill the Gospel of Christ in them.  My intent is to raise them as arrows for the Lord to one day be shot out from our home and carry the Gospel with them.  Thus, the name of this blog – Raising Arrows.

“Behold, children are a gift of the LORD, The fruit of the womb is a reward.  Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one’s youth.”
~Psalm 127:3-4

Often, a mother of young children won’t see the fruit of her labor until much later, giving her the impression she’s not really reaching anyone.  However, a funeral we recently attended gave me insight into what a faithful following looks like at the end of the race…

The gentleman who was being remembered died at 93.  Although he was raised in the church, he did not become a true Christ follower until he was 40.  By that point, he had been married quite some time and had 4 children, but it changed his outlook and attitude dramatically.  However, he lived his life as an ordinary man, doing ordinary things; the difference was that he now did it for and in the name of Jesus.  Because of this, his impact on his world was EXTRAORDINARY.

All 4 of his children are believers, as well as most of their family and extended family.  All of them spoke highly of him and how he ministered to them as a family.  His work in the community was done in the capacity of his various jobs, and he was well-loved by those who knew him.

Once, he counseled Ty not to worry about taking the “right” job, but to do something he enjoyed and work for the Lord there.  He did a lot of work in the church, but again, it was done in the capacity of the gifts and realm of influence the Lord had already placed in his life.

Visitors as my mission field.

The day the Saladmaster representative came to cook us dinner, we all pitched in and cleaned the house.  That was the only thing I did to prepare.  In fact, I’m pretty sure half of my boys had on jeans with holes in the knees.  I had to leave the kitchen several times to change diapers, my 4 year old kept playing with one of the pans, and my 2 year old took off with the 1 pound fat glob the guy brought as a visual to explain how to cook healthy meals.  Perfect it was not.

But, it didn’t need to be perfect.  It just needed to be authentic.

Being a missionary is easier than you thought.

The Mission Field is your own Home - RaisingArrows.netBeing a missionary is a calling all Christians have and it has very little to do with your training or your location.  As a mama, it is about being authentic with everyone you come in contact with from your husband to your children to the mailman to the Saladmaster representative. It isn’t about saying the right thing or looking a certain way.  It isn’t about being the perfect hostess or reaching the most people.  It is about living an ordinary life, doing ordinary things in the name of an extraordinary Savior!

Your life, your home, your testimony - it doesn't have to be extraordinary to reach others with the Gospel! |

So, next time you are tempted to believe you aren’t really doing the Lord’s work, or what you are doing is much too insignificant, remember WHO is doing the work.  It isn’t you.  This isn’t about you.  Be faithful where you are.  The Lord didn’t accidentally give you these children or this life.  It was planned with a purpose.  Work where you are FOR HIM, and let Him do the rest.

The Relaxing Room – How to find your space in a busy household

A few weeks ago, I was able to connect with an old friend who is a fellow homeschool mom as well as a pastor’s wife.  She was telling me how she has a parlor room in her home that she keeps free from toys and clutter that allows her a place to sit with a cup of tea and relax.

The concept of having a place you can go to relax may sound like a luxury you cannot afford.  Perhaps you feel your home is too small or your time too limited to allow for space to relax.  But, please, lend me your ear for just a moment…

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In other cultures and in days gone by in our own, people took time throughout their day to breathe.  Some countries take long lunches.  Some countries take tea.  Some countries even take naps!  However, in America, busyness seems to be a badge of honor.  Now, don’t get me wrong…we are to be busy at home (Titus 2:5), but taking a moment to drink a little tea or coffee, read a chapter in a book, sit and hold a small child, open a window and breathe fresh air are not marks of laziness.  They are marks of thankfulness.

The Bible tells us to be still.  When we are still, we are able to know God more because we take the time to see His handiwork in the trees and clouds, the shadows and light, fresh air, and our children’s faces.  We are more in tune with the blessings we have been given, and therefore, live a life of thankfulness.

But, what if you can’t dedicate an entire room to relaxing?  No problem!  You can find this kind of space other ways.

The Relaxing Room - how to find your space in a busy household |

The chair above is a hideous orange chair my mother-in-law picked up at a thrift store for me years ago.  It is the THE MOST COMFORTABLE CHAIR IN THE WORLD!  But, it’s orange!  So orange I don’t allow it out in public!  It sits in my bedroom with an end table beside it.  It is a place I can go to nurse when baby needs quiet (or mama needs quiet).  It is a place I can sit while I talk to my husband as he gets ready for work.  It is a place I can go to have a heart-to-heart discussion with one of the children.  It is my relaxing room.

I have a set of red-cushioned patio furniture I purchased a few years ago.  Sometimes my relaxing room is there.  I can sit in the sunlight and watch the children play.  I can read a book or work on my computer in the fresh air.  Sometimes I just go there and sit and do nothing but breathe.

Sometimes my relaxing room is a 15 passenger van with the windows rolled down and music on the radio.  It is the place I find margin in my day.  It is the place I praise the Lord for giving me all the little people in my rear view mirror.

Your relaxing room might be a tiny corner of the living room where you keep a rocking chair and your Bible.  It might be a garden with stepping stones made by your children or a front porch full of plants and flowers.  Wherever it is, it is a place you can go to be thankful.  It is a place you can go to find just a tiny moment of retreat…enough to renew and refocus.

Not sure how to find a relaxing room of your own?  Here are some ideas to get you started…

1.  Choose a place you can keep fairly clear of clutter.  I know in a busy household this can be next to impossible, but if you purpose to have one little space that doesn’t get overrun throughout the day, it really isn’t that hard to keep it clear.  Yes, you will have to be diligent about removing items from the area that don’t belong, but trust me, it’s doable.

2.  Put something there that makes you smile – your favorite quilt, a plaque with a Bible verse, a pretty notepad and pen, even just a nice coaster to set your coffee on!  It doesn’t have to be elaborate.

3.  Teach your children to respect the space.  They should know they are welcome there, but they should also respect the fact that the space is for relaxing and not for horsing around or cluttering up.  Granted, children are children and a stray army man or doll isn’t the end of the world.  I’d also encourage you to allow the children to use the relaxing room for their own breathers if need be…or even help them set up a space of their own!

4.  Find a few moments every day to go there and just breathe.  Even if your relaxing room is just a couple of steps outside your back door on a rectangle of concrete, go there every so often and breathe deep.  Thank the Lord for this day.  Thank the Lord for this moment.  Take a sip of tea and head back to your regularly scheduled life a little more relaxed!