I used to wear only skirts and dresses. For one whole year that is all I wore. I was newly convicted about letting God plan our family, and as I scoured the internet for like-minded mamas, I began to believe dress wearing just came with the territory. But, I took it a step further.
Or should I say, I took it a step UP…up onto my Holier-Than-Thou soapbox where I could look down my nose at everyone who did not wear skirts and dresses and pass judgment on the condition of their hearts, while my heart festered ugly and self-righteous.
When the Lord took the blinders from my eyes, I ran the opposite direction, scared I might become that woman again.
However, somewhere beneath the rubble of my self-righteous heart, was a heart that still longed to understand God’s heart concerning skirts and dresses and me.
So, quietly I would search.
One time I found the courage to ask a friend who had worn dresses for as long as I had known her how she ended up there. Her answer surprised me. She said her husband loved her in dresses and saw them as very feminine and flattering. He complimented her profusely when she chose to wear a dress for the day and from that she realized how honoring it would be to him to wear things that he enjoyed seeing on her and on their little girls.
I guess I was expecting some sort of holier-than-thou response. Instead I got quiet, humble obedience.
But my husband doesn’t really say much about my wardrobe unless he feels a shirt is too lowcut. So, I found myself wondering if his silence was reason enough for me to avoid skirts.
Yet the niggling remained.
When I would search the Bible looking for the answers to my questions, I would find myself unconvinced that the often-quoted Scriptures people use to say women are supposed to wear dresses spoke definitively to that end.
But a few months ago someone I highly respect reminded me that as Christians we are to be set apart. This person was not talking about women wearing dresses, but that is immediately what came into my mind. Dresses and skirts are distinctly feminine, and in today’s culture, distinctly different.
When I am out shopping and I see a woman in a skirt with little girls in skirts trailing after her, I immediately see her as different. Why? Because women don’t wear skirts anymore. There is obviously something “different”, set apart if you will, about a woman in skirts.
But, skirts really confound me. Even though I wore skirts and dresses for a year, I wasn’t good at it. I ALWAYS felt frumpy. I ALWAYS felt uncomfortable. And in the winter, I ALWAYS felt COLD! So, after I quit wearing skirts full time, I began to wear them here and there on nice days when I could wear sandals. I truly did feel different in skirts, but I didn’t feel like it was something I could stick with.
Then I ran into Caroline from ModestMom.com at a pregnancy crisis center benefit where the Duggars were speaking.
And then I went out on a limb.
I emailed Caroline and asked if she would help me.
I rambled out this messy, excited email asking if she would help me…and take all of you along for the ride as well. And she agreed!
I needed a mentor. I needed someone who could come alongside me and help me fully understand the method and modesty behind my desire to be set apart in this way. And I wanted Caroline to share her expertise with all of you in the process. “She Wears Skirts” is a collaboration between two mothers, one searching and one guiding.
What you will find here in the next several weeks is not a bunch of rules and regulations. You will find heart. You will find humility and a desire to serve from both Caroline and myself.
I am inviting you on the journey. Caroline is handing out the maps. Neither one of us is here to push you down the path.
As we take this journey, we will talk about things like
- why modesty matters
- a basic checklist for getting started wearing more skirts
- what sorts of undergarments work best
- what shoes to wear
- what to wear when pregnant and/or nursing
- how to accomplish every day tasks while wearing skirts and dresses
We’ll have photos and video, shopping tips, and Caroline will offer supplemental information on the Modest Mom Blog for those who want to dig even deeper!
Will you join me? I’d love to have company on this journey!
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