In much of today’s American culture the word home is nearly the equivalent to a hotel with a restaurant. In fact, in some cases, it is downright despised, uttered in contempt or spewed in disgust.
The late Sono Harris (mother of Josh Harris) said,
“Home became the place you went to when everything else was closed.”
At some point, home stopped being the centralized point of the family. Perhaps when women entered the workforce as the rule rather than the exception or when our society became less agrarian or when school became compulsory was the point when the home took its first hit.
But it doesn’t really matter what started the fire, the house has nearly burnt to the ground by lots of little “matches” along the way. Pointing fingers of blame isn’t nearly as necessary as rebuilding.
God created the family and where the family dwells together naturally needs to be a nurturing atmosphere. It can’t be 3 years of nurturing and then we dump everyone out of the nest and get on with our lives. It has to remain the constant forever. Yes, even into our grandparenting years.
What is your home like? Is it a place where everyone lives separate lives? Or is it a thriving community?
What can you do to rebuild the home today?
-Be there! Seems simple enough, but many, many families don’t have a home culture because they aren’t home! Stay home. Learn about each other. Spend time in your home just being together…no extra entertainment and frills, just good conversation and open hearts.
-Tell the family story. Connections are made from the moment your family becomes a family. Tell the stories of how marriages began, how babies were welcomed into the home, how life has been lived over the years. Make those connections by telling those stories.
-Work toward a home that is vibrant and alive in Christ. I talk about this a lot in my book Creating a Peaceful Home. Having a home worth coming home to starts at the very core and rests on the cornerstone of Christ. A family without hope and without focus will never be a place people want to be.
We don’t have to live like this. We have the ability to choose right here, right now what kind of home we will build. It is never too late. No, it may not look like perfection, but doing nothing is never the answer. What will you do today that shows your family how important this place you call HOME is?