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Yesterday we talked about how we need to learn how to feel blessed before we can truly enjoy the blessings of the Lord. Today, let’s move on to what a blessed and peaceful home feels like.
But first, a story…
Once upon a time, my husband never wanted to be home. He wanted to be with us, but he didn’t want to be at home with us. He would come home from work and pack us all up and run us around all over the place. I never gave it much thought because I just assumed this was the way he was, extrovert that he is. However, at some point I made the connection that it wasn’t that he really wanted to be gone from home, but that home was not a peaceful place for him.
Home was not a haven.
For us, it was the mess and clutter that kept our home from being a haven. But the clutter wasn’t just isolated to the house. Mommy’s brain was cluttered too. And because I was constantly at odds with my home and my attitude (see Day 1 of this series), I had no time to create a warm and inviting atmosphere for my husband to come home to. Therefore, he wanted to escape.
And frankly, so did I. How much easier it was to close the door and pretend my overwhelming to-do list didn’t exist.
But, I knew this wasn’t any way to live. I wanted more. I wanted the abundant life God promises! So, I began to search.
I searched the Scriptures. I looked to the Titus 2 woman and the Proverbs 31 woman, to theDeuteronomy 6 parent and the Ephesians disciple. I listened to sermons revolving around these posts and read books that gave examples and practical tips.
And then I searched the lives of other Christian women. Women who’s homes felt like a haven to me.
Some felt like havens because they were decorated beautifully. Others were havens because the lady of the home radiated peace and joy. They were homes that were servant-minded and felt comfortable and loving.
So, I took the Scriptural principles I was reading about and the practical ideas I was observing and I began to add these touches to my own home.
My family now sees our home as a haven. My husband rarely wants to leave, and tells me he feels so comfortable at home with all of us.
Even though no two homes are alike and what I needed to make my home a haven may not be what you need to create a peaceful haven in your home, I want to give you a smattering of ideas I implemented that brought our home to a place of retreat and safety for the entire family.
*Creating of a routine that worked. We had tried plenty of routines that didn’t work before I realized I was trying too hard. Take what you naturally have and build on it to create the perfect routine for your family!
*Decluttering – my house and my mind. I began to slow my pace and homeschool with purpose and live life with vigor. I also purged the house of half our stuff (even though I could definitely manage to do this again – it was a huge improvement!) As I mentioned in Day 3 of this series, orderliness glorifies God and shows our love for those living in our household. It shows that stuff isn’t more important than people.
*Bringing the day to a close. This is tomorrow’s post – it’s a goodie!
*Creating “atmosphere” and “ambiance” with family favorites. Last week, we talked about decorating your home in a way that brings peace. Add to this things like candles, music, and lighting to create a peaceful atmosphere that is warm and inviting to your dear family.
*Smile. Send your husband off with a smile. Wake your children with a smile. When your husband comes home from a long day at work, smile and welcome him home.
*Show hospitality to your family. Hospitality shouldn’t be saved for guests alone. Your family deserves the royal treatment every day of the week!
*Gather the family for Family Worship and enjoy it! We do our Family Worship Time shortly before bed. Sometimes we sing, sometimes there are instruments, Daddy always reads from the Bible, and we always have prayer time. There are no family worship rules, so lose that notion and then work from there. A wonderful DVD on the topic is this one:
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