This past week my older children were attending an event that ran all day for 4 days. I was transported back to the years of no helpers as I climbed through the maze of seats in the 15 passenger van to buckle and unbuckle small children and cross streets with everyone as my buddy. By the end of the week, I was exhausted!
Frankly, my days are rather exhausting even with my big helpers. There is a lot to do and a lot of people needing me. I do everything from give blog advice and college counsel to change diapers and confiscate candy! Anyone not living my life would probably not get it, so I thought it might help if I would write out a few things I need you to know about being a mom of many…
1. Things you think are fun are actually very stressful for me. Please understand if I don’t want to go to the waterpark or take everyone on the bike path. I get hives just thinking about it.
2. I don’t like crowds. We ARE a crowd. I don’t want to have to search for my people amongst other people.
3. I will be unpredictable. I may have all the best intentions of coming to visit you, or finishing that project you asked me to do, but with a lot of littles, things come up quite suddenly. Let me just say “I’m sorry” right now.
4. I won’t always remember to tell you I’m being unpredictable. Um…sorry again. I don’t always remember to take a bathroom break during the day, let alone call you and tell you I’m not going to make it.
5. I will probably be late. It never fails…we are just about to leave and someone needs a diaper change or an entire change of clothes! One little thing goes wrong and there goes my timeframe. I try to add in extra time for everything, but sometimes I use up all that time.
6. I won’t volunteer for much of anything. I know you could really use an extra set of hands, but my hands come with about 5 more sets of hands that are tiny, busy and often rather sticky. I’m not a good volunteer because I volunteered to be mom first and I have to fulfill that position. It’s the season I’m in.
7. I don’t see these little ones as a burden. I’m actually not bothered by the fact that I can’t be on every committee or go to every homeschool function under the sun. Please, don’t feel sorry for me. Yes, my hands are full. Yes, there are days when I am frazzled. But, I wouldn’t trade this for the world. Someday, they will all be grown up, and I will smile fondly about those days I spent as a mom of many littles.